Before you came into my life
Sunday, July 15, 2012 @12:59:10 AM
It has popularly been said that art imitates life as life imitates art. We also know that ASD idividuals imitate both. We are keen observers of social interaction so we might have a clue of how to conduct our lives in social intercourse and relations. Furthermore we know that individuals on the spectrum are literal thinkers. Thus what we are told we are quite prone to accept it as it is spoken.
Towards this end I turn my radio on this summer and the ubiquitous spun tune that finds me from virtually every angle is the Carly Rae Jepson's ditty called "Call me maybe". Huh?
Music, I have surmised throughout my life is designed to entertain and set a pleasant mood. This song does neither. Call me maybe deeply disturbs me. Not the melody, mind you, it is a pleasant melody that actually is catchy. It is the lyrics that bind my mind into maddening knots.
I put my self in the place of the love interest of the singer and ask my self how to respond to an attractive girl who is attracted to me, saying call me maybe. What the heck!! Umm, should I call you or not? Should I not call you, since you said maybe. Should I ignore you? or are you so attracted to me that you not sure what to say and I should ignore your comments.
I turn to the internet video and become a member of an audience 67.5 million people strong. That larger than many large countries. We know this song if extremely popular by that massive number of hits, The song peaked at number one on the pop charts and has won awards for the Canadian born writers. What I witness is a girl flirting with a guy next door and trying to be coy about it. OK?? That 's about as far as I can get from the video, so i walk away continued in my confusion.
I pull up the lyrics and it goes on to say things like before you came into my life, I missed you so bad. Uh huh. IDK, Still I don't get it. How can you miss me before I came into your life.
It must be just me because so many awards and sales have come the way of the song. I guess something is wrong with me to be disturbed by a song so popular. Then I realize I am a literal thinker and a song with mixed messages might just appeal beyond it's obvious controdictory messages. Unfortunately my mind was not designed that way so It wouldn t be a maybe for me, I would not only not call her but run from her.
Now I am really concerned. I am in my 50 s and married, Both of my kids are youths, what if this is how their generation is talking to each other? The song has already been redone by Justin Bieber and Cookie monster. That tells us it's intended audience. My kids have ASD sensibilities, if this is how we flirt nowadays I will never have grandchildren-Yikes !
