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Green Eyed Monster Jealousy and Autism

Sunday, November 28, 2010 @8:51:12 AM

Are you Jealous? How many emotions do family members dealing with Autism go through in a day. Then I was thinking how many do

we bury? It is great to talk. It is even better to talk to your partner.

What Happens when the pipes flowing Communication get clogged with artery sludge of pent up unspoken emotions. Today I would like to talk about Jealousy. Remember this is from the perspective of a man that many say is unable to process and understand the emotions of those around me.
Let's cover the all the bases. Please let me know if I leave any out....

I am jealous of that guy down the street with the Hummer in the driveway and the one the other way with the brand new Mercedes SUV. How exactly do people afford that in this
economy?

I am jealous of the houses many people have. So many rooms and so many bathrooms. Who is cleaning all of that? I am jealous of those Norman Rockwell images of Thanksgiving.
All smiles and GrandDad carving a Turkey? Does that really Happen? I know the Bible tells us not to covet our neighbors stuff,

but I think most of us have at some time or another.
Ok, I am avoiding the subject. That truly vicious stuff that is
ruining families and marriages. Pent up frustrations. As a family dealing with Autism in 2011 you will have given up more than stuff. You will have given up Careers, Sleep, Starbucks, Marriages, Partners, Dates, Vacations, Family moments, and intimate times
. I am sorry that all of that has happened over the years but we
must let go and move on to survive. Nobody has a playbook for Autism.
I am not sure anybody could write a playbook. All of our loved
ones span such a large spectrum of needs and now ages. Yes,
there is a little more support, knowledge and help but things are
still out of whack. Yesterday, I was very frustrated when a local newspaper ran a story about an expert flying to India to teach

families and provide resources. We live about 20 miles away in
rural Illinois and have never had support or resources like that.
It is time for equity. I digress... Sorry
http://www.news-gazette.com/news/health/health-care/2010-11-27/teacher-heading-india-share-autism-information.html
See how easy it is to get off topic. I am just saying Forgive,
Forget, Listen and love. Create your own holiday spirit this season.
All my Love and Prayers for You and your family TannersDad Tim Welsh Autism and Vaccine safety Advocate.

www.MasonAlert.org
www.USofAutism.com
www.GenerationRescue.org
www.AutismOne.org
What can you do today...
If you are a parent... Love your child unconditionally. Do not let your child feel they are any less because they cannot communicate the way we do or look after themselves. Do not forget to look after yourself and your significant other. ( If you don't have one find one...There is someone out there for everyone. You deserved to be loved also). Join a church. Speak to your friends. Keep up the good fight.
If you are Friend... If you have resources please consider supporting Generation Rescue as they move the agenda towards services and support programs. If you do not have financial resources provide respite services... Babysit, go with a parent to the grocery store, or running errands. Be there to listen.
If you are a Parent dealing with a loved one on the Autism Spectrum Protect them with Layers and Layers of love, information, fences and locks. Go to www.awaare.org and http://www.masonallenmedlamfoundation.webs.com/ Learn and support.
If you are in the medical community it is time to wake up and do something...
If you are in the insurance industry it is time to make the people responsible pay...
if you are in the media it time to tell the truth...
If you are in the government it is time act...
If you are in education it is time to educate...
If you are in a religious community it is time to rally the troops to support families...
If you are involved in a Autism group please invite them to join the Move to Heal Autism By 2030 (MTHA)
If you are in contact with amanda peet and have a child with Autism invite her over to experience our lives first hand and but out of our childrens and the future of others children.
If you are impacted by autism (that means you are part of the human race) Join me in the fight. Join the social media world with your own cause or mine. Make a difference in our world. now. State your change! Then make it happen.
If you happen to have some sleeping pills, sleep ideas for children with autism, or want to come spend the night let me know.... I need a nap.
Say a prayer for all those dealing or not dealing with their "Autism Like" conditions.
On Twitter #FeelAutismYet #TruthFirst #Autismabc #APE #Autism #BFH #Tahml #HDTJ #HC09 #PMB @TannersDad #UWAC #WEAP
If you are in the pharmaceutical industry it is time to pray...
If you or a family member in the Military are impacted by Autism help me promote a meeting between Angela Warner from www.AutismSalutes.com and Michelle Obama http://tinyurl.com/m9r8ws
People it is just time to deal with Autism....
How much longer…
www.MasonAlert.org
www.USofAutism.com
www.GenerationRescue.org
www.AutismOne.org

1 comment on “Green Eyed Monster Jealousy and Autism”

Richard Maguire Says:
Monday, November 29, 2010 @4:16:46 AM

This is a tough one. I've been where you are. Struggling with autism takes lots of emotional and physical strength. This can lead to one being behind one's peers in terms of career etc, and it sucks to see this success in others when feeling low. What I can say is that from decades of working in social care and dealing pastorally in the Church is that few people have it good all the time. I have known and do know several couples who have it good in a material sense; good carers, seven figure bank balances, big houses and expensive cars. One thing that is quite apparent, and backed up by research is that it is in our relationships with our families and other people that we find our happiness. The rich people I know are either happy or unhappy; the happy ones do have excellent relationships with everyone including themselves. The unhappy rich people live isolated lives where the maintenance of their possetions and standing in their career mean more than relationships with people. These people are isolated, disliked, can’t get on with people and are poorly regarded by others. They don’t see beyond their small, albeit well funded and depressed lifestyle.

What I mean is that success and happiness is caused by healthy relationships with ourselves and others, the most important of these relationships is with God in Jesus. God made us for relationships; relationship is an intrinsic property of God. He can be known in a very human form, he does know exactly what causes us grief and importantly, happiness.

Being autistic I have been behind in my career and earning power all my life. I have struggled with this, still do. Although gradually I have been more able to value relationships and I am getting happier by the decade. Yet with autism developments often happen through paradigm shifts rather than linear development and today I am going to meet someone in the autism world with whom I can do a great deal of business as an autism trainer and speaker. The break I have yearned for has happened in mid life. This came through years of work and relationships with people.

In the early years someone with autism can flounder a great deal in life and cause their parents no end of concern. I did this to my parents; the autistic adults I work with did it in their turn. However out of the blue paradigm shifts do happen and life does become clearer for the growing autistic person. One thing we have to contend with is a weak central coherence, that is why we may seem so unreachable and so discombobulated in our approach to life. The paradigm shifts do happen when all of a sudden things click into place in our consciousness. We often get to the right places a decade or so after most people, however due to having more life experience and having picked up a lot more practice on the way we really know what we are at when the paradigm shifts happen.

There is healing, lots of it although it may seem a million miles away. I wonder if it will catch you at unexpected times.

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