poor language skills

Do not mistake me as an expert on social skills nor the communication czar. However I been watching you Neurotypicals and have come away with the conclusion that you guys have way more issues with communication than we do.

I am not trying to judge but my observations have led me to create a classification of poor communication skills for Neurotypicals.

Lets see: Who's the most social of them all-young adults who are dating. What do they typically do with each other? Lie, no not anybody that you know personally of course, but the lion share of single people lie like nobody's business. The give each other their first names correctly then go about saying all kind of half or whole lies about themselves to put them in a more positive light. Then they see what they can get from each other. Trust is at a all time low when it comes to socializing because nobody can trust what they are hearing from each other as real. There is this overriding believe one must try to manipulate before you become manipulated.

Parties are a bastion of small talk that leads a conversation nowhere. People laugh at things that are wholly unfunny and everybody agrees to things that are remotely connected to logic. If a person spoke with authority about a particular subject-everybody goes mute and gawk at that person or tacitly agrees as if they know what s/he is saying. Worse yet if a person if explicitly honest about their life or lifestyle people slowly back away from them and mentally mark them as unapproachable. For the rest of the party they will be alienated and isolated.

Probably the most problematic behavior that NT's display is the manner by which they 've decided to end a friendship. They choose to stop communicating completely. Okay lets see-one goes from being lied to then they are told half truths to bring them along according to the other person's needs-at the expense of your desires. Then out of the blue they stop answering the phone and disappear out of your life. Inexplicitly  they are gone-just like that. Now that may seem acceptable to you, but I can never understand it and if I live another 50 years I will still be scratching my head at this bizarre use of language and deplorable communication.

I find this unacceptable but most neurotypicals accept this poor use of language and go along with it. So I have come to understand that it is not kosher to push for an explanation and when I do, i am told point blank that it is i that is bothering them. REALLY !  It's me why is that?; Because I am too stubborn to accept your stupid game and it's paper thin veneer over the reality of things? that I know the other person can no longer maintain their selfish impromptu image of themselves as an identity by which I am forever supposed to address them by?

Now that I am able to read the real person, I am to make believe and accept that they want to vanish overnight out of my life. Really? Is this is an excuse for social skills?

Now maybe you can understand how marriage end 50% of the time and the 50% that stay together at least the majority of them are unsatisfied; and are staying togetther for reason's other than "love". So to this small percent I lift my imaginary stein to salute you.

To the others; it is no surprise that so many people feel lonely within relationships and without.,

Okay I have picked on you guys;But I do so not to be judgemental.    I avoid that at all cost, I just wanted to be ironic. We are said to have poor social sklils and exhibit poor language skills. If we do, then it is what it is, but it is hypocritical for NT Doctors and Psychologist to label and classify us with these "disorders" when clearly there is a huge problem on the NT side of the spectrum.

I am hoping this is received with love and not as an attack. My aim is to raise awareness and consciousness to how these determinations are arbitrary sometimes.

Readers please let me know what you think.