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Hi, I am Warren and I live in the southern highlands of NSW Australia. I am seeking some advice as to how to deal with my family who is in denial as to my AS status (especially my partner) and I am getting tired and lonely and see no improvement from my efforts to date which is a gently gently approach. This has been going on for 4 years now and the isolation is getting a bit tiring. My partner and others in the family also exhibit AS tendencies which are not as pronounced as mine. I have gained much since my diagnosis and acceptance of AS and would like to assist others in the family. I have not raised the issue with them as every time I bring up the subject of AS the doors are closed. Any hints or comments on similar situation would be most appreciated. Sincerely, Warren


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Posted - 08/16/2012 :  09:13:27  

Hi, Warren, unfortunately all I can do is confirm your experience. My husband thinks Asperger's is a psychological condition implied upon people by their parents. he, more or less, believes in the old Fridge-Mom-theory. After I had a dramatic meltdown in front of him on the issue he doesn't raise the topic and doesn't reply when I do it. he DOES have some AS traits himself but blames it on HIS parents. I'm just as much at a loss as you are.
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Anjy

Posted - 11/10/2012 :  23:38:48  

G'day Warren,
I have High Functioning Autism to call my own (:

If it's any help, I have a suggestion, whether it'll help you or not, it's still input! Haha (:

I would suggest, perhaps speak to your specialist (person whom diagnosed you) and perhaps collaborate with them an appointment, and bring along the person/s in your family to the appointment, perhaps set up a questionare (typical ASD questions that can place you somewhere on the spectrum), and have them all do the questionare, so that they can then have their's compared with yours, and when they see that their own traits resemble that of yours, perhaps the specialist may suggest testing for the others in your family?

It seems like a good idea. The challenge would be to have your family member/s with ASD traits to tag along with you. (:

I hope this helps or sparks an idea for you (:


- Matty